And they have been guided to the purest of speeches; and guided to the path of Him who is worthy of all praise. [22:24]
1. Say Only What Fits The Situation
When you talk during your visit, say only what fits the situation and be brief.
If you are the youngest among those sitting, don’t speak unless you are asked to, or unless you know that your speech and words will be well received and will please the host and other guests.
Don’t prolong your speech. Be clear, concise and to the point rather than prolonging on and on.
2. Respect the Azan
If you hear the Azan you must listen and respond to the call of Allah.
Many people, even those with Islamic knowledge continue talking while the Azan is being called. This is rude, since those hearing the Azan should listen to it and quit speech, study and even Quran recitation.
Solemnly they should repeat the words of the Azan and reflect on the words of this highest call. We should listen to the Azan, whether we are at home, office, shop, or attending a lesson, even if it is a religious lesson.
3. Controlling Tone
If you speak to a guest or any other person, whether in a gathering or alone, make sure that your voice is pleasant, with a low, audible tone.
This manner should be maintained with friends, peers, acquaintances, strangers, the young and the old.
It is more important to adhere to this with one’s parents or someone of their status, or with people for whom you have great respect.
If appropriate, smile while talking to others.
This will make them more receptive to what you have to say, and may dispel the impression that practicing Muslims are stern and humorless.
As stated in Surah al-Hujurat,
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَرْفَعُوا أَصْوَاتَكُمْ فَوْقَ صَوْتِ النَّبِيِّ وَلَا تَجْهَرُوا لَهُ بِالْقَوْلِ كَجَهْرِ بَعْضِكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ أَن تَحْبَطَ أَعْمَالُكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَشْعُرُونَ
O you who believe! Raise not your voices, above the voice of the Prophet, nor speak aloud to him as you speak aloud to one another, lest your deeds become vain and you perceive not.
[49:2]
1. Say Only What Fits The Situation
When you talk during your visit, say only what fits the situation and be brief.
If you are the youngest among those sitting, don’t speak unless you are asked to, or unless you know that your speech and words will be well received and will please the host and other guests.
Don’t prolong your speech. Be clear, concise and to the point rather than prolonging on and on.
Anas (رضى الله عنه) reported,
"The Prophet's (صلى الله عليه وسلم) speech was clear and succinct, neither too long nor too short, and he disliked chattering and ranting." (Sahih Bukhari)
Similarly it was reported in Bukhari and Muslim that 'Aisha (رضى الله عنها) said,
"The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) spoke [so few words] that you could count his words."
2. Respect the Azan
If you hear the Azan you must listen and respond to the call of Allah.
Many people, even those with Islamic knowledge continue talking while the Azan is being called. This is rude, since those hearing the Azan should listen to it and quit speech, study and even Quran recitation.
Solemnly they should repeat the words of the Azan and reflect on the words of this highest call. We should listen to the Azan, whether we are at home, office, shop, or attending a lesson, even if it is a religious lesson.
In a Hadith reported by Jaber that the Prophet said,
"He deserves my help on the day of judgment who said when hearing Azan : O’ Allah, the Lord of this perfect call and imminent prayer, please award Mohammad the help, nobility, and the desired status you promised him."3. Controlling Tone
If you speak to a guest or any other person, whether in a gathering or alone, make sure that your voice is pleasant, with a low, audible tone.
This manner should be maintained with friends, peers, acquaintances, strangers, the young and the old.
It is more important to adhere to this with one’s parents or someone of their status, or with people for whom you have great respect.
If appropriate, smile while talking to others.
This will make them more receptive to what you have to say, and may dispel the impression that practicing Muslims are stern and humorless.
As stated in Surah al-Hujurat,
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَرْفَعُوا أَصْوَاتَكُمْ فَوْقَ صَوْتِ النَّبِيِّ وَلَا تَجْهَرُوا لَهُ بِالْقَوْلِ كَجَهْرِ بَعْضِكُمْ لِبَعْضٍ أَن تَحْبَطَ أَعْمَالُكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَشْعُرُونَ
O you who believe! Raise not your voices, above the voice of the Prophet, nor speak aloud to him as you speak aloud to one another, lest your deeds become vain and you perceive not.
[49:2]
Source : HaqIslam, which also referred to Islamic Manners
by Shaykh Abdul-Fattaah Abu Ghuddah
by Shaykh Abdul-Fattaah Abu Ghuddah
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